I started listening to Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection (audio book). In a mere 30 minutes, she confirmed what I suspected (and the reason I picked up the ‘book’ in the first place), that I am not living whole heartedly.
She offered some valuable starting points (this is not verbatim, just my personal take away):
- Knowing yourself is important; loving yourself is critical.
- It’s a mid-life unravelling, not a crisis. It’s a time of letting go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embracing who you really are. It’s normal and it can be a good and healthy thing.
- Digging deep when you’re exhausted and depleted does not mean powering through whatever is depleting you. It means pausing to go inside yourself to find something that will revive and restore you (so you can carry on, if necessary)—it may be 15 minutes of meditation or it may be an episode of I Love Lucy—you do you!
I was only 30 minutes in and I was feeling intrigued but exhausted. So at this point I paused the book to ‘dig deep’ and whole heartedly embrace a glass of Pinot Noir to restore and revive me . . . I have a feeling Ms Brown would say this is not how that works!